I have personally seen many individuals, both men and women, being held back by an idealistic frame of mind. Their mindset is influenced by media, other married people, and other sources which lead them to expect that some ideal person/package is waiting somewhere in this world for him or her to marry.

They keep waiting and waiting and years pass by.  And when they come out of that dream, they are in their late 30s or 40s, unmarried, and disillusioned. They get frustrated by the seemingly limited choices available (far from their ideal) which may have been numerous, when they were younger. In my humble opinion, parents and others should guide such dreamers back to reality. The sooner they realized that people cannot be manufactured to suite all of their standards, the better it is. I personally know a friend  who is waiting for a girl who is young, gorgeous, humble, with a low pitched voice, who will cook him Chinese and Italian foods, educated, professional, have wealthy background, and above all of the same caste as his. I have advised him hundreds times to drop some of his long list of requirements, but he is not willing to do so yet.

Any sensible person will imagine how on this earth he is going to get everything in one package. I am sorry to say, this is a pretty absurd idea. The same kind of behavior is sometimes shown by parents who search for a “perfect” match for their daughter or son and spoil the lives of their children.

Realism is the name of the marriage game.  Everyone has standards.  It is prudent to choose what things will be integral to your happiness in a relationship, but as a matter of realism, keep your list short, and expect that you will compromise on some issues. 

 by: Ecosmos