I have personally seen many individuals, both men and women, being held back by an idealistic frame of mind. Their mindset is influenced by media, other married people, and other sources which lead them to expect that some ideal person/package is waiting somewhere in this world for him or her to marry.

You are still in school or in college or in middle of looking for a job to get settle, and you are asked by the family about getting married. What to do? Go for marriage and see what happens or settle yourself first and then marry. 

Every human has physiological and psychological requirements that need to be fulfilled.  Islam being the most natural religion of all is a strong advocate of marriage. The Prophet (PBUH) said “there is no celibacy in Islam”. Islam never recommends extremes in any matter of life including marriage for its believers.

Thinking of getting married? Do you know the exact rationale behind this decision? It is very important to be mentally prepared before going into marriage. Often couples wonder after marriage why they married in the first place.

Islamic Introductions is now looking for submissions to our 25 most eligible singles list.  We will be publishing this list in March Insha’Allah.  We are looking for Muslim singles that are attractive, educated, and socially or otherwise involved.  Singles should be Muslim, living in the US or Canada, 18 or older, and have at least a permanent residency. 

Tell us what makes you an eligible Muslim single, or nominate someone you know!  Send submissions to admin@islamicintros.com

Asalaamu Alaikum brother,

This is a complaint that I have heard a few times.  Though I know it must be frustrating for you, you must understand that many Muslim women are reluctant to relocate with a new husband. 

 For the western Muslim woman finding a spouse, and maintainingg a strong relationship is becoming more and more difficult.  In this blog post I will only discuss one of the roadblocks the these women face when they take the step towards marriage: Fear of oppression.

As a professional Muslim matchmaker, my subject is marriage.   Its important for me to understand and judge people.  I judge intentions, personalities, looks, everything.  I also have to judge, and ask potential clients to evaluate or reevaluate whether or not they are actually ready for marriage or if it just seems like the next logical step.

Asalaamu Alaikum,

Thank you for your question.  In most cases the man is unwilling to move. 

I posted this blog post on Facebook, and got a little feedback on it that made me want to clarify my position a bit here as well. 

It is always a person’s choice as to who they are attracted to, find common ground with, and generally want to marry.  That being said, it is also my responsibility as a Muslim matchmaker to be honest and realistic with people and make them aware of how their choices will affect their opportunities.

Please always expect this level of honesty from an Islamic Introductions matchmaker.  We won’t promise you the sun, but we will always do our best.

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