As a professional Muslim matchmaker, my subject is marriage.   Its important for me to understand and judge people.  I judge intentions, personalities, looks, everything.  I also have to judge, and ask potential clients to evaluate or reevaluate whether or not they are actually ready for marriage or if it just seems like the next logical step.

I get lots and lots of people contacting me that are 1 month or less out of a divorce.  Some are a year out, and are quite comfortable in single life.  During the initial consultation I get the feeling that its not marriage that they actually desire, but it just seems like the next step for them.  Many times family and community pressure these individuals toward marriage when that person is not mentally ready.

Marriage is one half of our deen in Islam, and can be a very enjoyable union.  However, it takes much effort, emotion, and consideration.  Marriage is a step that should be taken wholeheartedly with the intention of giving n100% to the effort. 

I typically advise clients to consider whether or not they are ready as my clients are serious about marraige and it is a bad reflection on me to deal with people who aren’t serious about getting married.  But in a larger context our mission is to build strong Muslim families.  This begins with fully stable, well intentioned Muslims.